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Great Ideas / Ideas You Can Use With Any Theme / Candlelighting Help and Ideas
Most Moving Alternative to Candle Lighting | 
How to Write Candlelighting Poems | 
Puzzle Board Alternative to Candlelighting | 
How to Do the "Cup of Life" |
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Candlelighting Help and Ideas
Candlelighting is a ceremony invented by a caterer in the 1950s and, as such, it has no ritual meaning at a bar/bat mitzvah. We understand, though, that they've been embraced and some of you will want help figuring out how to do one. We're happy to provide it here. One suggestion from MitzvahChic: it is best in terms of honoring all your friends and family and it will also make your party better if you don't "pick and choose" who deserves to light a candle. So, put candles on the tables and let everyone light them together. Or, if you're going to call just a few special people up, consider praising and thanking the whole room at the end to acknowledge ALL your guests - your entire friend and family circle (as a cell phone company would call them!). Consider, too, that there are other more inclusive activities you can do to honor your people. We'll add them here as time allows.
Most Moving Alternative to Candle Lighting
Petal Mashraki of Israel sent this amazing note:
Instead of the candle lighting I am taking my son in the month before the party, to do 13 donations or volunteer projects.
I will take photos and make a video of these tzedakah photos, together with a
voice over of him dedicating each mitzvah to one of the important people who
have brought him to this point in his life.
As the video and audio are running, he will go to each one of the honored people and give them a white rose,
together with a card containing a personal note of thanks. For example: "For my Granny Laina who loves animals so much, I volunteered at the RSPCA in
your honor. I want you to know how much I love and appreciate you."
"To my mother who has always educated me in everyway she can, I donated books of mine to our school library."
The last mitzvah will be for the Jewish nation and G-D, he will take on the mitzvot of a Bar Mitzvah.
The entire MitzvahChic staff reacts: We've never heard anything more beautiful!
How to Write Candlelighting PoemsHere's a writer who took the time to write a list of tips on creating candlelighting poems. Thank you, Jill, you poem lady, you! Jill's website is http://thepoemlady.com She will even write them for you and give them to you on individual scrolls so you can give them to your honorees.
To hire Jill, go to her site
To get her list of poem-writing tips, click below on "Visit Related Website for More Information."
Puzzle Board Alternative to CandlelightingThis is a large easel-sized Puzzle Board for Candlelightings. The top photo enlargement (20" x 30") is cut into as many pieces as needed for the ceremony. As they are removed, a new photo is revealed. Any themed design may be incorporated into the design with the cut-out glittered name. These boards may be ordered online and shipped anywhere in the U.S.A.
Visit Related Website For More Information.How to Do the "Cup of Life"Submitted By: Tracy B. of , New Jersey I found an alternative to candle lighting called the CUP OF LIFE ceremony. I think it is beautiful.
Here is the description. Cup of Life Ceremony An alternative to the candle-lighting ceremony for bat-mitzvah and bar-mitzvah celebrants, created by Rabbi Anchelle Perl, involves 14 small cups of grape juice or wine (13 for each year plus one for good luck). One by one, they are poured by each honoree into a large brandy snifter. At the end, the celebrant recites kiddush and drinks from the snifter. The suggested order of guests invited to participate in this ceremony begins with grandparents, followed by aunts, uncles, cousins, friends, and siblings. Those who want may say a few words while pouring their contribution into the Cup of Life. The honor of the 14th cup goes to the parents. Each cup represents an ingredient in the “recipe” for a good life: Cup of Good Health Cup of Wisdom Cup of Faith Cup of Compassion Cup of Good Humor Cup of Dedication Cup of Success Cup of Prosperity Cup of Generosity Cup of Friendship Cup of Happiness Cup of Love. Note: These are merely examples and can be altered per individual interests. Set-up Bridge table or similar 14 small snifters, cordial or wine glasses, filled with red wine or grape juice Large snifter or other decorative goblet with the capacity to contain the wine or juice from the 14 small glasses. |
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